With the clock winding down, it is time to roll it back. I will start with the first semester’s worth of newsletters this week (No. 1 to 24), and return with reflections from after halftime next Sunday.
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At its inception, fear of the unknown was what fueled the weekly newsletter format; a concern that without constant reflection, I would find myself lost in the weekly forest of classes and the mundane day-to-day like ankle-deep quicksand. Moreover, their content mirrored insecurities over uncertainties that I carried with me on the plane ride over from the States.
After the initial adjustment period of acclimating to 8am kimchi, the primary problem was unraveling a sense of self-identity in a country that culturally frowns down upon personal independence.
Even while constantly pondering my own goals during orientation, I was often critical of us—the motley bunch of Fulbright foreigners that had invaded the small Korean town, giving “shuffling ajusshi’s and ajumma’s the extra obstacles of snapchatting and instagramming twenty-somethings on their clean and quiet sidewalks, and more than a few Korean curse words have been muddled under [their] breaths” (Another Rainstorm || No.
“I, me you—personal pronouns overused by us Fulbrighters this week,” (Placement || No.
With this contradictory mindset, I planned my first practice lesson, which discussed the concept of the American Dream with a group of Korean middle and high schoolers. “But what if the dream – the one your parents, every parent, all of society – isn’t what you want?” I typed after the lesson. “Do I give the students my definition of success and my own dreams? Is that arrogant given my position as a foreigner? Is that my job given my position as a Fulbright ambassador?” (Dreams || No.
In hindsight, I think these observations were more a reflection of my desire to fit a solution to whatever problems I perceived from the beginning, rather than suspending judgment until I had more data points to refer to. Even moments where I was concerned about students with learning disabilities (The Ignored || No.
This coincided with rudimentary yet emotionally intense deliberations on my personal identity in relation to my Korean heritage and how easily I could have been a part of the society I was now a foreigner in. “How are we—I, my family—[in America], while the rest of the family is not?” I wondered at regular intervals (Butterflies || No.
But my conception of being Korean quickly narrowed from an affinity towards all Koreans to a tenuous connection with my extended family. Behind all this was my late-passed grandfather, who was “happily protecting me, from above” according to one of my second-aunts (Legacy || No.
My story, in a sense, was and is still the continuation of his. “You aren’t a brain, a body, or even a memory, but a book,” I wrote to myself. “The story continues, and you may even flip back a few pages to cross something out or write in the margin every once in awhile. Life events are chapters, graduations section headers, turning points are…turning points” (Continuity || No.
Lack of focus in the classroom and in pursuing personal goals reflected this rough patch. “Awareness isn’t the destination—it’s a checkpoint,” I wrote in Imbalance || No.
I probably should have been able to guess that family would be at the core of the next steps forward. By this point, I had seen the extended family a few times and was fully aware of the significance. “It’s safe to say that there’s less than a handful of times that’s going to happen for this branch of the family,” I predicted. “It’s an almost out-of-body experience sometimes, knowing that this is your family, but still, no one here is closer than second aunt or second cousin. Going further, there’s dozens of these family branches if you go further up the tree; yet only one in America.”
“Yet as I open the pages of this family book—now in my bag for between-class reading at work—it’s me who can’t read it,” I half reflected, half lamented. “It’s a simple reminder that the rest of the family isn’t out of place; it’s me, the Korean-American from across the ocean, that’s the black sheep” (Reunions || No.
This angle was crucial for the writing of the long feature Homecoming || No.
What the West might call subservient and submissive—the act of bowing to mountain spirits and centuries-dead ancestors—was humbling and awe-inspiring. When asked why the tradition was fading away, an elder responded, “These days, young people don’t feel like they owe their ancestors debt—debt is the right word, isn’t it?” On that day, I felt indebted to the choices my ancestors made that created my reality.
The day also brought me face-to-face with the contradictions embedded within my heritage as a Korean and my upbringing as an American: “To invalidate the old way of life would be to deny the validity of six centuries of ancestors; to attack it for its modern faults would be to forfeit a key piece of knowledge and understanding of our family’s history. And so I took my first steps out of the car at the base of the mountain, pushing aside conflicting thoughts for the time being. This is not the time for looking back, even as we stepped into the past” (Homecoming || No.
In a way, a single trip up a nondescript mountainside was the start of learning how to accept the contradictions and complicatedness within the intangible concept of the word ‘identity.’ While I may not be any closer to having resolved all the questions that have arisen, the first semester helped me to become more comfortable with the unknown. Like a child walking through the dark—first terrified, then fearful, then calm.
Returning to Jeonju and the week-to-week humdrum of teaching with a modified sense of purpose, I began to see my students with more patience cultural differences with a healthier detachment and fascination (Students of Korea || No.
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